Valentine’s Day: for some, a day of love, romance and the color pink. For others, a dreaded day, the worst one on the calendar. Luckily, though, Feb. 15 calls for half-off candy sales, and I think we can all benefit from that. 

But in all seriousness, a happy Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be defined by whether or not you’re in a loving, healthy relationship with a significant other. Think about all the other relationships in your life; chances are you have families and friends you can show your love to this Friday. You can even show your pets a little extra love, because they certainly deserve all the treats and belly rubs imaginable. 

Give your mom her favorite flower, or your grandpa a box of his favorite chocolates. I am in a relationship, and Valentine’s Day is special to me in its own way because of my boyfriend, but I enjoy any and all other aspects to this holiday, and I encourage everyone to as well. If you’re single, I understand feeling depressed or even bitter, but reclaim the holiday and give it your own meaning. Love isn’t just defined by a boyfriend or girlfriend; there are so many wonderful kinds of love in the world. 

One of my favorite valentines memories are the fruit baskets my grandma used to give to my brother and I. (Of course she included some chocolates in them, too.) My wonderful mother never fails to give me little gifts on Feb. 14. Now that I’m older, I like to do the same. Everyone deserves a valentine, whether to show love, gratitude or appreciation. And let’s not forget Galentine’s Day is an official holiday now as well. It’s all about getting together with friends. I’ve never actually celebrated Galentine’s Day, but I hope one day I can. 

What I’m trying to say is, don’t let being single or away from your significant other put a damper on your Feb. 14. If you want to be alone and watch romantic comedies, do it. That’s your thing. But, if you feel like you have no option but to do that, I hope you’ll reconsider. Yeah, I know, I’m the girl in a happy relationship preaching to you, but I haven’t always been. And my boyfriend and I don’t go all out on the holiday, but it’s a nice reminder that we love each other and a perfect opportunity to show it. 

Relationship status shouldn’t matter on Valentines’ Day, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. There’s no limit on how you express your love, or who you express it with. 

And, if I still haven’t convinced you of anything or made you change your mind, I still hope you enjoy some delicious candy, either on Valentine’s Day or as soon as it goes on sale. 

Amanda Larch can be contacted at [email protected].